All of that goes because we dont want to live with a shit factory? They dont love like humans and its unhealthy for both dog and owner to be apart of that carp. All was discussed prior and she promised all sorts of things regarding there keep, like no begging, toilet training walking etc. If so, necessary actions can be taken just by following your vets advice. You can love them and even have them live inside but they must be obedient and not treated like a human or hold precedence over them. googling the heck out of the history of the breed most positive way to get result when disciplined. Dog lovers can be incredibly obnoxious and many dont hesitate to passively aggressively force others family members of even total strangers to put up with their child, as they refer to the animals. Ive never trained a dog, (I am more of a cat person) and I had no idea how much attention and supervision a puppy needs. Grooming sessions: Never skip grooming sessions. I dont understand it at all! Training was going well but unfortunately, fianc decided to go against every step I took to try to ensure he was a well behaved little gentleman. Ill give you some examples of the hell I have endured. Good for you! One of them is very dominant and a bully to the other one, most of the time, which can be very frustrating. Since he never had kids, he says that his dog is the kid he never had. He just doesnt get it, he cant understand the appeal and only focuses on the stuff he hatesthe smell of cat food or a litter tray that has just been used, even though both items were in the utility room and our house is clean. I told him that Ive compromised but I cant change my dogs behavior overnight. I felt rushed to eat my dinner. How much would you resent your husband if you did so? He said he couldnt relax in his own home whilst we had a cat. We fight about it and he says he hates the dog. Dogs arent human in the sense that some people anthropomorphise their pets but that nauseating pet lover encourages jealous or possessive behavior that just their dog likes them only because of the way they are intentionally or subliminally raised. I realized that I only had patience pre pregnancy because I wanted to be a mother. Id love to get rid of them, but that is clearly not an option. He never asked if I would be ok with helping look after a dog. I work from home, so while she went to work and the kids went to school, who got stuck with the whiny poop machine me. I need only to say No and she stops. What makes it all worse is that our dogs can sense my stress and displeasure in them and eventually develop submissive behaviors. Not to mention it likes to jump on the table when were eating, and whines till no end if she doesnt allow him out of his crate. He refuses to go to the bathroom unless its on his terms, so he wakes her parents up all through the night. Spending time got more minimal and the dogs kept coming first. Best of luck !! My husband has forced me to hate dogs. Its feeling like Im second best and that ever since that dog arrived, Ive been getting little to no love/attention. She did not approach the man even when he was waving a 45$ Steak. The dog, 2. Its a warped relationship Watch for pictures of the animal everywhere and how he or she speaks about their pet. He resented the cat for the love I showed it, perhaps he was jealous, but I am not unaffectionate towards him? She drops her dog off at her parents house, which helps because he isnt alone since they have a dog. She is terrified of him she can sense he does not like her. I get answers like oh but its like a child. The shelter lied to us about her age, they said she was 4 ( which is still a trainable age,) well it turned out she is more like 6. Two weeks ago the bomb dropped. Id never ask my wife to get rid of them and the problem isnt the dogs: its the way she treats the dogs and the problems that creates. My neighbors tell me that they see my SO with the dog more then they see my child. They have passed away 2 yrs ago my mom and not quite 1 yr ago my dad. I have so was so hurt and mad at what she said to one of my friends. And ofcourse I would want them a good new home. Lots of men in the world who love dogs and arent nasty jerks. I love that little cutie. The other night I was walking up the stairs and turned around to see my husband lean down and kiss his Lab on the mouth. Definitely do not get rid of the dog and keep the bf. I told him that he needs to come by and walk her and interact with her if he wants me to keep her here because I have a backyard. Our kids have moved out now that they are older so since the bedrooms upstairs are free, my wife has turned one of them into the dogs bathroom. Get the dog a doggy bed and keep him off of yours. Since I wrote my post on here I broke up with my GF. Human companionships challenge you and force you to try and see someone elses perspective and to think of their needs because you know that they wont always agree with you. Well the plot has thickened. Second, fire the therapist. the little dog weighed about two and a half pounds and was covered in ticks had a dislocated back leg and had been being hit and swung around by the legs punished for no reason being left without food or water. im just not sure i can make it till hes no longer in the picture. Yes I support your dream she says but down deep, I think not. No idea what to do in this situation. My cat is allowed on the furniture and our bed when he comes but hes much smaller than a Great Dane and sheds much less.. If a good marriage or relationship is what we desire, and if we make this our priority, then we must look at some of those things in our lives that may be taking up too much of our time and energy (physical and emotional) and ultimately causing us to loose sight of our goal. I HATE having fur on my clothes. They follow me every where and never leave my side. Sadly since you have already brought it up to your partner and they dont respect you by compromising youre gonna be stuck and you should use this as a preview for what the rest of your relationship will look like. Drool xs 2! I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Idk what to do or say anymore.. It is super disgusting how bad behavior is rewarded with these Chihuahuas. According to her he also gets, cold all the time, so he wants to go under the covers. My boyfriend says its just a dog but to me my do is way more. So the dogs stay away from him whenever possible. Hi Janet, He also let her eat from our plates, let her pee and poo inside the house at times. Maybe I should just spray all the floors in the house. What should I do, I have know where to go and no money bc everything is in her name and bank account. The fact is, this is really obvious regarding why does your husband/boyfriend wanna do this. My point is, My wife is cool with me laying some ground rules down because THEY ARE DOGS. I have always been much more of a cat person though and have only ever lived with small dogs until now. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below. My fianc says he is not going to live another year and that was 3 years ago. The dog is extremely spoiled and its just sad, depressing, and agrivating. My boyfriend was drunk and as he got out the car he started throwing up. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I just begged for her to live and promised that even if she was permanently disabled , I would care for her kindly as long as she lived.For another 3-4 days she was still retarded. Then, to make matters worse, he got another goldendoodle puppy last year, so now we have TWO huge, unruly, hyper, untrained dogs in the house. My boyfriend has a pit bull she is a nice dog. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. This dog whines like crazy when he sees us eating our meals. I dont even understand her attachment to this animal, unlike many of you have stated your partners are very affectionate with their pets. Not enough to leave my future wife. Not him. Regardless, if the pet needs medical help, rather it be meds in the ear, whatever, how can you like yourself knowing that something, a living thing is suffering and all you can worry about is I dont like dogs and someone else should do it. I dont let the dogs sleep with us and they both have their own spaces in the house where they sleep, and where they are allowed to be during the day as well, but ever since we got the puppy my 10 year old yorkie is waking us both up barking at 3AM, 4AM, 5AM to eat. She does everything I ask even hold still for jackets and lifts her legs for her harness. He said his reason is is that he doesnt make a big production out of it. My dog died at 3 years old. My boyfriend and I recently (within the past 3 years) bought a home and our first Dog (a rescue) shortly after, my mother fell in love with her, she got one of her own. It is something I dont believe in and it breaks my heart to even consider. Im in the exact same predicament. They stink so bad. If you Love your dog like I think you do. I got married and moved in with my husband awhile ago and we adopted a dog shortly after. Whatever is our desire, we want it now and at the best price with the least effort. Im not interested in a DOG keeping me awake. I have confronted my husband numerous times with my feelings towards his dog. Replays with your dogs so perfect! Well. Im tired of it. Dogs are happiest in a structured environment where they know who the leader is and arent in a constant state of unrest due to rank confusion. He is asking me to consider changing my entire life. And as a non-dog lover, I cannot understate the extreme annoyance of having a highly energetic dog jumping all over me when I come in the door. Please tell me if thats normal? It is driving me insane. This is obvious. I was angry the vet didnt do a better job alleviating her post op pain. Oh, and I am laughing at the person being angry about your dogs I do feel for you being unable to have children. At this point, I highly recommend you to go with a dog trainer. We have a 2 year old pit bull. When it does do something, its to look for f***ing food on the ground, that it will ingest and restarting the cycle of diarrhoea again. I just want him to be safe as my dog wants his food. You cannot stay out too long. Ive has to replace her bed because she pooped on it, and she is tearing up the toys that belong to one of the other dogs. We are renovating a 1958 house with every penny we can during my weekends she actually does very little in this project, but its not about all that its about her boundless defence of these dogs that cost a fortune. I brought up some of this to him, and his exact response was, She treats me better than you do. UmI was speechless. Your dignity as a woman is being stripped away and the relationship he has with his dog is unnatural and borderline wrong. Her bulldog was 7 years old and they live 8-12 years and the other one was 5. The mistake that people make is treating animals like a child. My family however took my exs side because to them he put on such a facade he could do no wrong. I fear my the dog will be the death of us.. :( I heard all what you have been hearing from your partner.. it takes work and responsibility to have pets.. Dogs can be wonderful pets, but people dont realize the WORK that goes into having a well adjusted, healthy dog. If it has gotten to that point, it really isnt about the dog, it is about the relationship. Tell him, "We're just going to look," and see if he falls in love. We came into the marriage my spouse knowing that I do not like animals. Your husband is a cruel bully and should not own a dog. I cant complain about her because everyone that sees her loves her. So I caved. It is a very unhealthy bond. He has an English bulldog that is 6 years old and that Ive just grown to dislike over the years. He obviously has no respect for me. He does nothing with his dog but cater over it. The dog might end up dead if it is given away the death rate at shelters is often shockingly high. We had the exact same problem except I had two dogs when I met my boyfriend. Your spouse should be priority #1 without question unless kids are involved then the kids are first priority. He wont let me instill any discipline in the dog whatsoever. Hell cry for my SO when were trying to enjoy a movie together. We bought all new furniture for the new house bc we wanted to start everything fresh. (He used to tell me on our early dates (together four years), that were dog oriented, how people looking at us giving glances were checking out his dog (not me). I agree its not an issue about being rude to an animal its about treating your dog like a dog. Or you can buy a toddler bed. But I was very lonely and infatuated at this point and as he insisted in getting back together I gave in, but the moral struggle lived on inside my mind. 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